Should I Expect My Friends to Work My Wedding?

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Today, I want to talk about friends & family working your wedding. When you get engaged, it’s so easy to start thinking about all your friends or even family members who could help out. I know we all have that one friend who’s an aspiring photographer or that other friend who’s planned all your friends get-togethers. You think, it’s easy they can do it! Let’s break this down for a moment, your friend is an aspiring photographer, but does the style match yours? What is your photography style? Does your friend shoot light and airy or dark and moody or something in between? Does your friend specialize in a particular type of photography such as landscape, product photography, weddings, lifestyle? Does your friend have different lenses to get different shots and do they have insurance and a business license? Will they have a second shooter? Your answer to most of these questions is probably, “I don’t know” and guess what, this is probably the same answer as your friend. Let’s briefly discuss your friend who plans all of your get-togethers. All of those events are low-risk. A wedding is high risk, meaning there are a lot of things that can go wrong, especially if things are not clearly communicated or thought out properly. There are so many more variables to consider when planning and managing a wedding, it would be unwise to have someone who has never planned a wedding before take the lead. Many people compare planning a wedding to building a house. (Two things you have never done before.) Most people will hire an experienced contractor, electrician and so forth to build there house to have a solid foundation. It should be the same for your wedding day. You not only want creative partners who are experienced, but have the proper licenses to be doing work legally along with insurance.

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Okay, so you may be thinking, well my friend has the proper licenses and insurance to conduct business. Here are a couple things to consider when working with your friends:

1. Do you want your friend even working on your wedding day or celebrating with you? I know so many people do both, but let me you from experience, it’s exhausting. I would evaluate their friendship and see which would be more meaningful to you. Also, see what they would prefer as well.

2. You should be more than willing to support them by paying full price if you decide to hire your friend. This is their dream! :)

2. Do your research first and find creative partners who match your style, personality, and budget. You don’t have to hire your friends to just check that box off your list, you want to make sure you’re getting EXACTLY what you want for your big day.

Your wedding day is one of the biggest events that you will ever plan. I definitely suggest hiring professional creative partners on your wedding day.

As always, I would like to leave you with a quote:

"Price is what you pay. Value is what you get." - Warren Buffet


XOXO, Chante Gulley, Owner + Lead Planner of Forever Taeken Wedding & Events

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