Steps to Becoming a Mindful Bride
Hey there beautiful,
By now you've read my first blog post (If you did not read the first part, I suggest you read that first on defining mindfulness and why it is so important. Today I want to jump in and give you real life tips on how to become a mindful bride and how to incorporate it into your daily life. We all know that wedding planning can be very stressful with emotions flying high, deadlines to meet, endless meetings to attend, and of course, dealing with the future in-laws. If you are getting overwhelmed just reading this, then you are in the right place. Okay, grab your champagne and let's get started!
1. Just Breathe
That's it! Sounds too good to be true? Well, it's not. This is by far one of the easiest things you can do to become a mindful bride whenever you feel stressed. Here is a simple breathing technique to follow: First - Inhale for 2 counts and exhale for 3 counts. Second - Inhale for 3 counts and exhale for 4 counts. Third - Inhale for 4 counts and exhale for 5 counts. You can practice this anywhere. It can be when you're driving home from a vendor meeting or if you are at home you can find a quiet place, close your eyes and breathe. When you are finished with the breathing, examine the way you feel. A lot of times I feel more peace, calmness, and clear minded. One thing I like to do is right before the bride walks down the aisle, I tell her to take one deep inhale and exhale and during that time examine the room and think about how all of the people who are there who love you and have supported you. It also helps get any last minute jitters out before walking down the aisle.
2. Start the Day With Gratitude
Every mindful bride starts the day reflecting on positive things. When you open your eyes in the morning, think about 3 things you are most grateful for. It can be that you woke up that morning, that you are going to marry the love your life, that you have a roof over your head, that you have a strong support system with planning your wedding, that you found love.... it can be anything. Get into the habit of waking up and thinking choose 3 things to be grateful for. You can even have a gratefulness journal where you record all of this s and you look back on them when you're having a rough day. To take it a step further, you can even do this at night before you go to bed as well. Think about 3 things you are grateful happened today. Also, another way to show gratitude is to write thank you letters to all of the people who helped you plan your wedding. You can write one letter each day and give it to them on your wedding day. I guarantee, they will feel loved by you.
3. Date Nights With Your Fiance and Wedding Talk is Forbidden.
This may seem is simple and easy, but it's not. Often times, brides get lost in the planning and always have their mind in the future. As we learned from the previous post, mindfulness means simply being in the present moment. This tip is so important because you want to protect those intimate moments with your fiance and enjoy spending quality time together without having wedding talk. Your wedding day is just that - one day, but your relationship is forever. Staying connected and maintaining that relationship is crucial in the planning process. One thing we did back then was write down our favorite date night ideas and put them in a jar and every week we would pull one out and do it. This way, there was an element of surprise. Find what works for you and do it.
Well friends, these are 3 mindfulness bride tips you can do today! I have so many more ideas and would love to help you find what works best for you. Go ahead and email me and I can give you a few customized tips to help you become a mindful bride.
Bonus Mindfulness Tip: Have an unplugged wedding!!
As always, I would like to leave you with a quote:
Enjoy every single moment. The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, the inspiring, the not-so-glamorous moments. And thank God through it all. —Meghan Matt
XOXO, Chante Gulley, Owner + Lead Planner of Forever Taeken Wedding & Events
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