The Truth About Wedding Planners

Things you never knew about wedding planners revealed!   Photography By:  Nicole Leever Photography

Things you never knew about wedding planners revealed! 

Photography By: Nicole Leever Photography


Wedding Planner Spills all the Secrets

Hey! I hope you are doing well. Today, I want to chat with you about wedding planners. I want to uncover the veil and give you an inside scoop about wedding planners. I want to be real with you, there will be no rainbows or unicorns. I want to give you my perspective as someone who worked in the Hotel Industry for over 10 years and is now a wedding planner. I have so much respect for my fellow Wedding Planners. I hope this article gives you a better understanding about wedding planners. First, let's discuss the common statements that come up about wedding planners. 

My friends said that I don't need a wedding coordinator

Your friends are right, you don't need a wedding coordinator, you can just ask your mom, friend, cousin, or future sister in law to run your entire wedding... but WHY would you want to do that? Why would you want you future sister in law to work on your wedding day? They are your guests, not a hired professional. I have seen so many weddings where the mother of the bride is setting up the reception and barely having no time to get dressed, let a lone help her daughter put her dress on and take a few family photos before the ceremony. Your cousin may have been a bridesmaid a few times and so you're probably thinking she is well qualified for the job, but does she know how to think critically under pressure? Did she make a plan B just in case there is rain? Did she confirm with all the vendors weeks before the wedding? You probably answered no to one or all of these questions. Being a wedding planner is like being a captain of a ship, a director of a movie, or a Principal at a school. 

My day will be perfect

This is true to a certain extent. It really depends your definition of the perfect wedding day. If your idea of a perfect wedding day means that each and every detail is perfectly executed according to plan, then no, your day will not be perfect .If your idea of perfect means that you marry the man of your dreams and the rest will fall into place then yes, it will be a perfect day. There are so many moving parts and endless emails about the day going back and forth throughout the entire planning process that something can easily be overlooked. This is why you hire a professional wedding planner to help mitigate those problems and can be very quick to solve problems should they arise. We are your wedding insurance! Why would you leave this in the hands of someone who has never planned or coordinated a wedding before? Trust me when I say your anxiety and stress levels will go down knowing that you have a hired wedding professional in your corner.

I only need a day-of-coordinator to be there on the actual wedding day

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This is definitely a myth. The term day of coordinator makes no sense at all. Think about it, would you want someone to show up on your wedding day and try to run it without any prior knowledge of anything? Who would coordinate the wedding rehearsal the day before the wedding? Who would create a comprehensive minute by minute timeline prior to the wedding? Who would the wedding vendors contact prior to the wedding for questions and updates? If you do not have such a person, all of the vendors will reach out to you with questions before and during your wedding day, because there is no main point of contact. You need someone to handle all of these tasks and much more prior to the wedding and therefore, the term day of coordinator does not accurately reflect our profession. The term Event Management accurately reflects what we do. We not only coordinate and plan details prior to the wedding, but we also manage the entire day.

My budget is too tight, I can't afford a Wedding Planner

While you may have a strict budget, a wedding planner is not the one to cut from the list. If anything, you should hire a planner first. We are the glue that will hold your event together and bring it to life. We put our blood, sweat and tears into every event, because that is how much we care. I am not saying this to be preachy or salesy. Ask your friends if they had a wedding planner or not and get their feedback. Ask your vendors if it is helpful to have a wedding planner. I can guarantee that most of the feedback will be in support of a wedding planner. If you want your wedding to run smoothly and on time, it is in your best interest to hire a professional wedding planner.

I have a venue coordinator, I don't need a Wedding Planner

That is great news, however, the roles of a venue coordinator and the wedding coordinator are completely different. The biggest difference is the venue coordinator is hired by the venue, and they have the best interest of the venue as their primary focus and a wedding coordinator is hired by the couple and has the best interest of the couple as their primary focus. A venue coordinator will not reach create a comprehensive wedding day timeline from the time you wake up to the time exit your reception, we will. Your venue coordinator will not communicate with all of your vendors ahead of time to make sure everything is in order, we will.

The Truth About Wedding Planners

They are there for you always and have your best interest at heart

I care so much about each of my clients. My team plans every wedding as if our own daughter was getting married. We always listen to your needs and stand up for you on the wedding day. If you think our job is like what you see in the movies, think again. There are not so pretty moments on wedding days, which is why you need us there to make sure you get everything you paid for. We are in your corner, always.

They will do whatever it takes to make sure you have the best day possible

This is so true. There are many times when we handle something behind the scenes and you will have no idea. Someone will most likely tell you after, but in the moment, everything seems perfect to you. One of the weddings I worked, right before the ceremony was about to start, the groom noticed he forgot the rings at the hotel and asked his friend to go retrieve them. Meanwhile, the bride has no idea. The friend comes back and we started the wedding on time and without a hitch. Nobody knew except the groom, groomsmen, and the groom's friend. Meanwhile, I alerted the DJ that we might be starting late due to the ring situation, but within 10 minutes I informed her that the rings arrived and we’ll be starting on time! Phew. This is just one story out of a million.We are problem solvers, family mediators, and have strong communication skills! (Spoiler Alert: I may have another blog post up my sleeve with more stories like this!)

They are often undervalued and under paid

Believe it or not, this is a fact. Many people think they can do our job and when they step in our role, they have a big aha moment. People think our job can be done in just one day (on the wedding day) and truth be told, that is impossible. In the beginning of my wedding planning career, I was very insecure and had a lot of self-doubt. I undervalued myself, but I kept working at it and have made amazing coworkers and business besties along the way that have encouraged me and kept me sane. Often times, wedding planners are underpaid and make less than minimum wage if you actually do the math. So many of us just want to provide a service that were passionate about and don’t really deep dive into the finances. Brides - Know that your wedding planner is priceless and cares so much about you! Wedding Planner - Please know that you are valuable and so worth it!!

Thank you so much for reading this!! I hope you have a clear understanding of my heart behind wedding planning. I'd love for you to leave a comment below!

As always, I would like to leave you with a quote:

"I want your marriage to be more beautiful than your wedding day" - Author Unknown

XOXO, Chante Gulley, Owner + Lead Planner of Forever Taeken Wedding & Events

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