There was a time when I was chatting with a group of friends and I asked a question to one of them and I got a blank stare. I said, hello? My other friend pointed out that she had zoned out of the conversation. I can admit, sometimes, I day dream but bounce back really quick, but my friend was like that for most of the night. I know this may sound like an exaggeration, but it's not. It was hard being around this friend because I felt the weight of her problems and her emotions were painted on her face. All I wanted to do was hug my friend and tell her that everything was going to be okay. I wanted to let her know that whatever she was going through, she had a friend who would support her. I felt paralyzed. I felt helpless. I wanted to make a change and I couldn't in that moment.
Today I want to share with you a term that has changed my outlook on life and that word is mindfulness. Mindfulness can be defined as living in the present moment. It is the simple act of experiencing the here and now while utilizing all of your senses. So often we live in the past or the present. When were driving, we're thinking of what to make for dinner or how our work day really made us feel, or even all of the task you still need to complete. Our minds are constantly going like a hamster on a wheel. We don't really give our minds a rest and thus create a lot of unnecessary strain mentally, physically and emotionally. Have you ever heard the term, "Stop and smell the roses?" It's the same idea that when we are so busy, have so many to-do's, have a never ending checklist, and other commitments, we should stop for a moment and appreciate what's in front of us. For some that rose can be your kids, it can be your fiance or even a note your mom wrote. Okay, so obviously, I am not saying go and smell your kids, your fiance and that note your mom wrote. What I am saying is take the time to enjoy the wonderful gifts that life will bring. Spend time playing catch with your kids, go and have a date night with your fiance, and read that note your mother wrote to you. Don't just go through the motions, take it a step further and write your mom a letter back and on that date night with your fiance, tell him all the reasons you love him. The point is, really appreciate where you are right now in life. Soak in every moment with loved ones and create memories.
Okay, now that you've learned what is mindfulness, I want to share 6 benefits with you on why this is so important for you.
1. Decreases stress, anxiety, depression, worry and rumination
2. Improve general health
3. Decreases burn out
4. Enhanced Mental Health & Functioning
5. Increased emotion regulation & control
6. Improved social and relational skills
Here are ways that I practice mindfulness:
1. Hiking with the family every week
2. I try and do yoga at least 3 times a week
3. Deep breathing activities when I get overwhelmed
4. When I walk my puppy, I try and have a "mindful" walk. I think about what I see, hear, smell, feel, and taste
5. I also read my bible and pray daily
I am sure, after reading the benefits, you are wondering what you can do to practice mindfulness as a bride. Keep your eyes peeled for my next blog post as we will go over a lot of additional ways to incorporate mindfulness into your daily life and on one of the most important days of your life. I hope you found this article beneficial and as always I would like to leave you with a quote:
“Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of the present experience. It isn’t more complicated than that. It is opening to or receiving the present moment, pleasant or unpleasant, just as it is, without either clinging to it or rejecting it.” ~Sylvia Boorstein
XOXO, Chante Gulley, Owner + Lead Planner
About the Author:
Hey friends! I am the lead owner and planner of Forever Taeken Weddings and Events. We're a boutique event planning company for the mindful bride. We are located in Southern California and serve Los Angeles County, Orange County, San Diego County and Riverside County. I am a born and raised city girl, wife, pup mom to the world’s most adorable Aussie/German Shepard, and essential oil lover. My husband and I go hiking with our puppy, Inala, 2-3 times a week and we LOVE the outdoors. My guilty pleasures include listening to Christmas music in October and watching the Hallmark Channel (Their Holiday movies are the best, just sayin’) I work from home and truly care about savoring moments with loved ones. Now that you know all about me, I want to learn about you!
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